If you are in a blended family, then you already know just how difficult it can be, but I promised you answers….
Here is the list of questions to be answered:
The challenges in this blended family are plentiful. Many times you may be asking:
- Does he or she love my child less that his or her own?
- It is common to ask this, and common for the answer to be “yes.” Sometimes we have to face the reality that there is a stronger bond between children and their biological parents. Does this mean it is a problem? No, only if you let it.
- Does he or she discipline the children equally?
- Children are people, and people are different. The interaction between a step-parent and child should be filled with support and understanding. The step-parent should not attempt to take the place of the biological parent. Step-parents must take the roll of setting examples for all the children with love and support.
- Is favoritism being given to the biological child by the biological parent?
- It should never be obvious that the child of the biological parent favors the child. This will cause resentment among the family members, and not help anyone.
- Who should be the main disciplinarian?
- In most cases, the biological parent.
- Why am not accepted by the non-biological child as their new mom or dad?
- Because you are not the new mom or dad. Show unconditional love to all the children, be a role model, but don’t try and replace biological parents.
This is not meant to be a handbook for dealing with your blended family issues, it is meant to be a few questions that may help but not a replacement for family therapy.
So, Why Do I Need Family Therapy For My Blended Family?
If your blended family is experiencing familial bliss, then you do not need it. Just make sure you are not in denial. Speak with your children often, speak with your spouse, and make sure all is well before you dismiss this.
However, if you are experiencing any of the problems listed (or any that are not listed), then I urge you to contact me so that we can begin to solve some of the issues you are having. Remember, the children should not suffer because of this relationship. This relationship should, and can, produce healthy and balanced young adults.
In looking for a family therapist, make sure that the therapist will meet your needs. Most people Google terms like “family counselor,” “family therapist,” etc. The list of therapists is long and confusing. Just because a listing is on top, doesn’t mean they are the best. It sometimes means that they spend more money on Google than others.
Why Lou Carfizzi?
I am a licensed psychotherapist which means that I not only do “counseling,” I know how to effectively use psychotherapy to help you change your thinking in a manner that will give you peace and success.
I am also trained in Christian Counseling for those who want spirituality influenced therapy from a Christian world view.
Psychology has been a passion of mine since I can remember being exposed to it in high school.
I have a solid 22 year marriage that produced a 21 year old son. We have endured great times and hard times, but we survived and I can help you do the same. Although my family is not blended, I have counseled many families in my 15 years of experience with an impressive success rate.
Call me: 404-933-4745
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